Confessions of A Former Rescuer
Jul 23, 2025
From the time I was a child, I identified as “the strong one.”
That identity was celebrated, even rewarded. So I carried it with me into adulthood.
I was the protector, advocate, champion.
I was also a creative visionary.
Strength wrapped up in rainbows and unicorns. I was a walking billboard attracting weak and dysfunctional people.
And the crazy thing is, it seemed perfectly normal to me for years.
I built a life that looked like Shangri-la from the outside, yet was 50 shades of crazy on the inside.
Yes, thankfully, I eventually learned that just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should.
The biggest challenge creative caregivers face is that we don’t realize that there’s a problem, because what we do comes so naturally to us.
It’s the same with the women who come to me for coaching.
They feel a deep longing…a subtle discomfort.
And also guilt. For wanting more when their lives already look full.
Have you ever felt that way?
You pour your heart and soul into your (fill in the blank…clients, marriage, family, job, etc.) But what you get back isn’t aligned with what you pour out?
If you’ve ever found yourself…
↳Working harder for clients’ transformation than they do
↳More invested in your partner’s success than they are
↳Waking up feeling drained, struggling to start the day
↳Feeling alone despite being there for everyone else
You’re likely experiencing burnout as a result of being disconnected from your passion.
I know because I’ve been there. I gave everything to a marriage that was reliant on me being the “strong one” for a man who created crisis after crisis, because to him, being rescued was love.
For years, that served who I thought I was.
But it wasn’t sustainable. And it wasn’t true anymore.
So I made a decision.
I resigned from the role of Rescuer, with this declaration…
“I won’t fight you to make your dreams come true.”
Change began with the story I was telling myself.
I did the work. Reframed my narrative. And ultimately left the marriage.
I took the best of who I am and shifted from saving others to guiding women ready to save themselves. Now, I show up as…
Dream Doula and Transformation Coach for those who are ready to give birth to their dreams.
If you find yourself longing for more impact and meaning in your life, honor that as an invitation to become a greater version of yourself.
Get curious. Listen. Remember.
What dream did you bury deep in the recesses of your mind that your heart and soul are calling you back to?
That is where the next chapter of your story begins.
